"A person suffering of a
borderline disorder swings between adult's behavior and disturbed childish
behavior. The adult behavior of the Borderline can suddenly
collapse without apparent provocation resulting in tears or a seemingly
infantile show of anger" In
a nutshell: "My auntie she'is little girl
in a woman's body" To
be a little more realistic, we can say "They have tendency to react
more intensely to lower levels of stress than others. It can be seen as
Dysregulation or emotional hypersensitivity,
How do you identify a Borderline
this describe you or describe someone you know ? " But...
Why did he/she act like this ? " If you or
someone you know regularly
shows at least 5 of the following points, it is possible that he / she
has this disorder ()
Inability to manage their emotions
Sudden, intense rapid or frequent mood
Love - Hate relationships. Viewing others
by extremes - All good / All bad without nuance, black and white thinking
Feeling " victimised ", unable to accept
responsability for themselves
Feeling depressed, sad or empty
Frequent and or unpredictable outbursts
of anger (whether acted-out or not)
Unstable self image
Fear of abandonment
Impulsive self destructive behaviors with
addictions like Bulimia, Unsafe sex, Anorexia, Spending, Alcohol, Road
rage, Drug or Medication abuse, …
Suicide attempts or self-injury such as
cutting, burning, scratching,...
> They spend their
time controlling more or less emotions which they really do not control > Their ability
to hide their disease means that those closest to them are often
"unaware that there is something wrong", when in the fact their
life is one of suffering and sheer hell
Preconceived ideas and misinformation about these people
"It's just their nature" >
False, it is a mental disorder, an illness, not the person
"He/she is a childish man or woman"
False, it's a sick person disturbed and unable to manage their
"She is just a silly billy" >
False, their IQ is completely "normal", she is often well-educated
and can even hold down a rewarding career
"She manipulate, she lie" >
False, she use defence mecanisms in order to protect herself
"She can improve without treatment" >
False, she probably better hide
"It is a woman illness" >
False, men are diagnosed less (or are already in prison)
"I'm doing what I can by protecting her,
avoiding crises" > False, you prevent
her from becoming aware of their problems and take away any sense of responability
she might have
"She is too young to have this disease"
False, symptoms are possible from childhood onwards
"You can never recover from a mental illness"
False, the right treatment is effective
"The borderline disorder does not exist"
False, thousand of clinical studies and publications prove that
it is a mental illness with genetics, biological (serotonin) and environmental
2 to 4% of the
general population (NIMH
73% of "borderlines"
will attempt suicide at least once in
their lifetime (Soloff
10% of "borderlines"
will die (J.Paris 1994, APA,...)
30% to 40% of
suicides are committed by people with a personality disorder
even if suicide is present in their everyday life(Mann, 1999)
Want to know more, you know nothing ? I will suggest
you to read...
tip. If you are or if you think that you are borderline, try not to read
too much at once. Read, but don't give into your initial feelings, wait
some time and then go back again to read. That way, it will be, I think,
less distressing for you
/ summary contains a lot of informations,
testimonies about the illness plus the Borderline's typical behaviors and
available treatments.(Summary for teenagers)
including basic questions / answers that someone might ask about behavioral
Off course regularly. We talk about regular feelings, recurrent problems.
For example, everyone has been anxious in his / her life, the question
is to know if anxiety is an integral part of your / his / her life or not.
test is NOT a diagnosis. Example "I have 8 points, do I suffer of
a borderline disorder ?" Our answer is that "only a specialist could confirm
or denie this, in all case you discribe yourself with traits"
.. Warning: All the information
in this site is aimed at helping people understand a "rather particular"
and puzzling kind of disease But more especially,
to support everyone affected by it, sick or not. In any case, it
to see a therapist who specialises in this
field they can confirm or give an alternative diagnosis The name of what
you’ve got doesn’t matter so much, getting the right treatment for the
right patient does ,. last update July 2007 Copyright
federation - All rights reserved
Alain Tortosa, psychotherapist, founder president of the Aapel