AAPEL
trust him her to love me

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http://www.bpdcentral.com/support/trust.html
Letter from a Borderline patient
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I Couldn't Trust Him to Love Me Enough, and I Couldn't Trust Him If He Loved Me Too Much

Five years ago, I fell in love with someone who treated me well, and that automatically made me distrust him. I loved him, but I couldn't show him that because it felt too threatening and made me feel too vulnerable.
So again and again, I would break up with him. And again and again, we would get back together when I told him I changed my mind. I told him that I wanted to get married, and then I would tell him that I never said that. And he just kept going along with it, doing whatever I said because he was a forgiving person, he just wanted to understand me. 
He made appointments for me to go see a therapist and I wouldn't go, he bought me books and I didn't read them. Pretty soon, I kind of got to like the control that I had over him. 
For years, I believed that he was the problem. Now I see that I have BPD. And so I lost the best person I ever knew because I couldn't trust him to love me enough, and I couldn't trust him if he loved me too much. I can't seem to trust -- fully -- another human being. I don't know if I ever will. 
 

 

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All the informations on this site are with an aim of helping to understand a "particular" disease at the very least and puzzle
But more especially to support peoples who suffer, sick or not.  In all cases, it is ESSENTIAL to have recourse to a therapist specialized in the disease to confirm or to cancel a diagnosis
Though it is the name doesn't much matter, which is important, it is to apply "the right" treatment to each patient
 
 

2008